It's extremely difficult to expel a primary school aged child, they have to have done something extreme in order for them to get permission form the education department to move a child on.
However as a parent there are a few things YOU CAN DO that can make a difference.
- Document all meetings with staff, this can be with a diary during the meeting or you can ask to record the meeting but will need permission to do that i suspect.
- Sometimes you can speak to the parent, they may be unaware and open to your point of view. Not all parents are receptive and sometime bullying is a learned behavior. I did see a women get punched by a "man" and knocked out cold in front of the school gate many years ago.
- Start a file with the police just in case something happens and you need to go to court for an AVO etc. We did this with a violent underage neighbour and his father when my son was 13. Schools are not outside of the police jurisdiction they just prefer to hand ball it back to the principle.
- Any marks bruises etc should be documented by a visit to the doctors and the information passed on to the school
- Change schools, it sounds like a cop out but if it can't be resolved and your primary concern is your child's well being then change schools. Sometimes this is the best solution.
- Build your child's confidence and physical responses by enrolling them in Martial Arts. Sometimes this can be enough just by itself, the bully finds out they know "karate" and the problem goes away.
Things YOU CAN'T DO legally
- Confront the child, they are children and have very strong protection under the law, you could find yourself being arrested and charged.
- Threaten anyone with harm
- Hit or strike anyone outside of self defence
If it has reached any of these points you should be thinking about changing schools which is what we did with our oldest in grade 2 when after many attempts to resolve the issue with both the parent and the school but it became apparent that nothing was going to change.
What are your thoughts?